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I am Concerned Menopause will Affect My Sex Life What Can I Do


Over the years, we've received may requests for answers on how to combat menopause.A person born with ovaries will experience menopause, but the experience may vary, depending on their gender identity. Educators such as Jackie Melfi, Lexi Sylver, and Dr, Julia Ward have focused in on this topic in even greater detail and provided meaningful advice o the topic. Here is a video we created for sex educator Lexi Sylver and her incredible crew at SDC in 2018 that may provide a little insight into sex after menopause.

If a person undergoes surgery to remove the ovaries before midlife, the effects of menopause will start to appear soon after the procedure. Effects may be more abrupt and feel more severe than with natural menopause, as they will not develop gradually. Male hormone supplements may either reduce or complicate these effects.

Females in same-sex couples who experience menopause naturally at midlife may find that their partner can offer positive support regarding changing sexual emotions and activity. According to some research, however, same-sex couples may also find that stigma and societal pressures add to their stresses and make it harder to access support.

People who were assigned male at birth but have transitioned to female may use hormone therapy for life. As long as they continue treatment, menopause-type effects should be limited. Their libido is unlikely to change due to hormonal fluctuations, but age-related changes may still affect it
The physical and emotional impact of menopause can lead to a reduction in sexual activity. However, staying sexually active can help prevent these complications. This is because consistent activity can help the vagina remain healthy, especially after menopause.

Regular sexual stimulation helps promote blood flow to the vagina and retain the vagina’s elasticity, depth, and overall shape.

Over-the-counter products can often help. If these are not effective, however, a doctor may prescribe medication.

Some simple tips to reduce sexual complications include:

engaging in regular sexual activity
applying a vaginal lubricant before intercourse
using a vaginal moisturizer regularly and before intercourse
avoiding detergents, soaps, oils, and washes that can cause dryness
using lukewarm rather than hot water for cleansing
increasing foreplay or activities that promote sexual arousal
engaging in couple bonding or strengthening activities
managing stress with exercise and relaxation activities
talking to a therapist or counselor
finding ways to rekindle passion or repair partner relations
trying new or different sexual activities
treating any vaginal irritation, infections, and inflammation
staying hydrated
avoiding materials that irritate the skin

Menopause is not the end of pleasurable sex. Contact your primary care physician for more information.

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Charlie and Arienne Williams

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